How do I cope with all the emotions?

The emotions that come up during a divorce can be overwhelming. Many find psychotherapy helpful. Conversations with Collaborative Divorce professionals can also be beneficial.

Long-term, resolving these emotions makes it easier to embrace a new life. Short-term, the key is to partly work through and let go of feelings. This may allow the Collaborative Divorce to proceed in a better way.

For most issues, meeting alone with a Collaborative Divorce facilitator is best. In some cases, however, meeting together with a facilitator can support better mutual understanding. It may also help reduce obstacles to negotiation.

Friend and family support can be invaluable, though excessive anger on one’s behalf may not be useful. Venting with friends and family has its place early on; but later, it may just add fuel to the fire. Sometimes a supporter needs guidance: “I just need a good listener right now.”

Collaborative Divorce, like any divorce, can be taxing. Some do well to keep a light work schedule with occasional time off—to finish divorce homework, to rest and recover, or to take a break and have some fun. Running oneself ragged is not recommended.

Remember that more significant relief will often arrive after the Collaborative Divorce process is over.