Sometimes an affair occurs close to the end of a marriage. The affair may be a symptom of a marriage that is struggling. And it may lead to a break-up.
An affair can easily provoke raw, painful emotions that last a long time. In a Collaborative Divorce, the goal may be to work through these feelings enough so that they don’t interfere with the negotiation.
Sometimes, the person with whom one’s spouse had an affair becomes the new significant other. While this may be difficult, the wisest path is often to accept this reality and move on. If one has children, it is usually better not to damage the children’s relationship with this person.