Key Talking Points about Collaborative Divorce | Collaborative Practice

Private, not public
Your choice, not a judge’s
Fits your situation (tailor made), not cookie cutter
Intends cooperation, not conflict
Tries to preserve existing positives in parents’ relationship
Safe, cannot be used against you
Potentially reduces cost compared to litigation
Cost-effective specialists
Looking for creative options together—all brainstorm, all contribute
Supports diplomatic communication
Contains conflict
Containing conflict can also help contain costs
Simplifies finances
Sorts through legal complexities
Individualized support
Supportive of each parent’s relationship with the children
Less conflict means less negative impact on the children
An agreement met by consensus more likely to hold than one that was imposed
Invites and helps people to come from their better selves
With team approach, able to handle high challenge
Flexibility in meetings and scheduling
Aims to get at root of challenge areas as needed
Attends to feelings so that negativity doesn’t drive decision-making
Opens a door to empathy and caring gestures in negotiation
Attends to interests of each, aiming for win-win scenarios